When was the last time you discussed your finances?
Talking about money and our long-term financial plans are often seen as a taboo subject. In fact, according to research published in UK Adviser, 57% of high net worth Brits don’t feel comfortable talking about money with their families.
Yet breaking down this barrier could help you and those who are important to you make better money decisions.
Some of the money conversations you should be prepared to have include a:
- Sharing and caring “what’s mine is yours” declaration of love and commitment
- Difficult but important “I can’t afford to keep bailing you out” conversation
- Frank “what should I do with your finances if you’re not capable?” talk.
If any of these are conversations you’d like to be prepared to have with your loved ones, read on.
1. Talk honestly about the current state of your finances
Before becoming financially entwined with anyone else, it’s important to know all the facts. So, If you currently lead separate financial lives, carve out some time to discuss the current state of your finances.
Certain circumstance may make such conversations uncomfortable, but it’s important to be open and honest about your current situation. In particular, be sure to tell your partner about any debts or loans you have, your credit history, spending habits, and personal money goals.
Don’t try to whitewash it. Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. This will help ensure that you’re both primed to manage your shared finances effectively.
This initial conversation is crucial. And it’s equally important to keep an open dialogue and continue to communicate about money and financial decisions on a regular basis. Doing so could help to prevent issues arising and, hopefully, avoid either of you experiencing a nasty surprise down the line.
Understanding each other’s financial situation is particularly vital if you’re intending to make a joint financial commitment, such as opening a joint account or taking out a mortgage.
2. Face up to your own relationship with money
Are you super careful about how and when you part with your money or do you tend to spend without much thought?
Either way, it’s important to think about your own relationship with money. Being honest about your own approach can help form the foundations of a good relationship with your partner – and could lead to a healthier bank balance.
Whether you’re a spender, a saver, or land somewhere in the middle, make sure you own up to your attitude to finances.
Should you find you and your partner have opposite attitudes, this needn’t be a deal breaker and certainly shouldn’t prevent you from “getting into bed” financially.
In fact, two opposing approaches could bring some financial balance to your relationship. If one of you is a spender and the other a saver, you may find advantages in sharing saving habits and smart spending tactics.
3. Own up in the “how much do you earn?” conversation
Debt isn’t the only financial area that you may instinctively prefer to keep private. How much you earn is also something you may be wary of sharing.
Yet being secretive, or even lying, about what you earn will only bring problems later on, and doesn’t bode well when you’re planning your financial future together.
Whichever way you try and smudge things, if you fabricate what you really earn, you’re building a relationship on shaky ground.
Long-term relationships and money are integral to one another and, if you’re going to form a successful union, trust is paramount.
4. Pull on your kid gloves for the sensitive “future you” conversation with ageing parents
Talking to ageing parents about their finances is among the most sensitive money conversations you may need to have.
It’s crucial that you handle things with kid gloves, and be highly sensitive to your parents’ feelings.
Maybe broach the topic over something topical, such as an ailing family friend or the current economic climate.
Another possibility is to share something about your own financial situation – maybe that you’re working with a financial planner, for example. This can demonstrate that you’re thinking about and preparing for the future, helping to make it a more inclusive conversation.
Frankly, it’s never going to be easy for you or your parents to talk about their mortality, potential need for long-term care talk or failing mental capacity to handle their own affairs.
But tackle the subject carefully and you’ll most likely find these sensitive conversations could help other family members to think ahead too.
You can’t possibly know what’s around the corner, but talking things through before eventualities overtake could go a long way to helping you – and your parents – feel that bit more prepared. Any you’ll likely all benefit from some extra reassurance and peace of mind.
5. Include your financial planner in conversations
Coming together and balancing different financial views and money goals can prove challenging.
No matter which financial relationship you’re talking about, bringing a financial planner into your conversation can help.
Your Blue Wealth financial planner can mediate key conversations between you and your spouse and family to make sure you are on the same page and help you create a positive vision for your future.
Get in touch
If you would like to discuss your finances as a family, please email hello@bluewealth.co.uk or call us on 0117 332 0230.
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